There are many things which are completely out of our control and we have no say in it, whatsoever. Our past is one of them. Some things have happened to us, some things we chose to do. All of those came together to create a past which cannot be altered, no matter how much we wish to. Sometimes, we regret our past so much that we start to resent ourselves and other people who may or may not have contributed towards shaping our past and our regrets. It becomes difficult to let go of the past.
How to Let Go of the Past
This resistance to letting go of the past prevents us from having a better, happier, and a much more successful future. We are afraid to repeat our mistakes or to give anyone else the opportunity to hurt us again. Thus, we shun ourselves from receiving any new experiences. More often than not, we get into a pattern where we keep on repeating our mistakes leading to a series of regrets. It is easy to complain about the past, blame your fate, criticize other people, while not taking any proactive step to change it. Whereas, on the other hand, working towards creating a better future for yourself is tedious, excruciating and a never-ending process. You have to keep working towards it every single day of your life. Only then will you be truly able to create a better future.
Create a Goal for Yourself
Map out a plan for the future that you want to create. It can be a short term plan about where you want to see yourself in the next few months, or a long term plan for 5 years, or 10 years, or for whatever period that you want. Along with the goal, write down all the possible steps that you can take and the changes you need to make to ensure that the goal becomes the reality. You have to accept that nothing will change your past. Accepting it and learning from the past will allow you to avoid repeating the mistakes.
Do Not Give Up
Things will not change in a day. You may even want to give up halfway. However, strengthening your will to work hard and push yourself to adhere to the decisions that you need to make to create a better future will help you to realize your goals much faster. A better future can be created only with the help of hard work, persistence, and a strong will.
